"Busy"ness

You might wonder what this new word is. It is a short way to describe most of America today. We are BUSY!! A few years ago, Steve & I evaluated our family activities and made some changes in our schedule. We decided that we were too busy. Too busy for each other. Too busy for others. Too busy to help in emergency situations. Too busy to enjoy our life right now.

In an effort to change our lifestyle, we told our children they could be involved in two seasons of activities per year. For them, this meant they must choose which sport or activity in which they would participate. If it were up to my children, they would choose a sport or activity for each & every season of the year. This has been an excellent training process and we hope will translate to wise decision making as an adult.

Once we made this change, we began to have more evenings as a family and evenings to be with friends. Some of our children still ask "what are we doing tonight?" They want to have every minute planned with an activity.
In a similar way, I find it sad when we see newlyweds who need to have activities most nights of the week, and neglect their spouse in the process. This may be a direct result of having "activities" every night of the week as they grew up.

Busy-ness may stem from our children's activities, but it may also stem from simply taking care of one's own family and home. Sometimes we can be busy from the day-to-day routines. If this is the case, you might evaluate what it takes to keep up with your home and family. Be sure that your priorities around the home are God's priorities.

Even though our family is to be top priority, it should not be the only priority. You might find that you have chosen activities at home that do not allow you to reach out to others, to reach out in time of need, or to be a friend when someone else needs a shoulder to lean on.

Another way moms can become too busy is through outside ministry. This is usually not the case with homeschooolers, but it might creep in when least expected. I have seen stay-at-home moms that look like they are working full-time outside the home. They spend so much time with charity work, leading Bible studies, or helping with a variety of ministries that they are gone most of the week. If this is where your busy-ness is, choose only one activity outside the home in which to be involved.

Once you drop some of your less important activities, whether they are outside the home or within the home, you can then spend more time with God, more time enjoying your family and more time on Godly priorities.

For more thoughts about priorities, read Biblical Decision Making.

Kerry